Tej zaum, tsis muaj leej twg yuav sib cav nrog qhov tseeb uas nyob rau hauv tsev neeg cov kev sib raug zoo yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog kev hlub thiab kev sib nkag siab. Tab sis nws tshwm sim hais tias tib cov kev xav, kev xav thiab kev xav txog cov teeb meem - tag nrho cov no evaporates qhov chaw tom qab ob peb xyoos tom qab lub tshoob. Dab tsi yuav tsum tau ua kom muaj kev sib to taub kev sib raug zoo ntawm tsev neeg, yuav ua li cas thiaj kawm tau lub ntiaj teb nrog ib lub qhov muag? Los yog, yog tias koj tau tso tseg kom sib to taub, ces txhua yam ntawm txoj kev sib raug zoo yuav hla mus?
Yuav ua li cas nrhiav tau kev nkag siab ntawm ib leeg hauv tsev neeg?
Yuav kom teb tau lo lus nug no, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom to taub tias kev sib nrauj sib haum xeeb ntawm tib neeg. Nws yog kev ntxias hais tias nws tshwm rau ntawm nws tus kheej, vim hais tias, poob rau hauv kev hlub, peb tsis ua txhua yam rau siab to taub peb tus khub niam txiv, txhua yam mus los ntawm nws tus kheej. Li ntawd, yog vim li cas tom qab lub sij hawm dhau los ntawm kev sib koom tes peb yuav tsum daws qhov teeb meem ntawm kev tsis to taub ntawm tsev neeg, qhov twg nws yuav ploj mus?
Qhov tseeb, tsis muaj dab tsi ploj, tsuas yog thaum koj tau paub ib tug txiv neej thiab ib tug poj niam, nws muaj ib qho kev sib tham theem pib ntawm kev sib to taub, raws li kev nyiam thiab cov ntawv ntxiv. Tiam sis thaum tib neeg pib nyob ua ke, lawv qhib ib leeg los ntawm ib lub kaum tshiab, thiab tam sim no lawv yuav tsum ua hauj lwm kom ncav cov kev sib raug zoo hauv kev sib raug zoo, vim lawv tsis tuaj yeem sib thooj nrog ob tug neeg. Yog li, yog tias koj nyuam qhuav pib sib ceg ntau zaus thiab tsis txaus siab txog qhov kev tsis sib haum ntawm koj ob sab, tsis muaj dab tsi nyob rau ntawm no, tsuas yog koj yuav tsum nres thiab xav txog vim li cas qhov no tshwm sim. Kom nkag siab txog qhov no, them nyiaj rau cov lus hauv qab no.
- Ntau zaus ob leeg tsis tuaj yeem to taub ib leeg vim lawv tsis tham txog lawv tej teeb meem thiab kev ntshaw. To taub, tsis muaj teeb meem npaum li cas koj muaj, koj tsis tuaj yeem nyeem ntawv ib leeg. Yog li, tsis txhob tham nrog ib nrab-yim pab, lawv yuav tsuas yog ntxiv confuse. Hais ncaj ncaj thiab meej qhov koj nyiam thiab tsis xav, lub suab koj siab nyiam.
- Mus cuag kev to taub, psychology tawm tswv yim kom kawm mloog lwm tus neeg, tab sis qhov no yog qhov tsis yooj yim yog tias kev sib txuas lus tshwm sim rau ntawm siab tones. Peb muaj peev xwm xav tias peb tau hais rau peb tus hlub ntau zaus, qhov teeb meem yog dab tsi thiab ua siab dawb siab hais tias nws tsis ua tib zoo saib xyuas peb cov lus. Tab sis tus taw tes ntawm no tsis yog nyob rau hauv nws indifference, tab sis nyob rau hauv lub fact tias tag nrho cov neeg pab leg ntaubntawv tau ua thaum lub sib cav. Vim hais tias thaum lub sij hawm sib txuas lus nws tsis tsim nyog yuav nkag siab txog interlocutor, tab sis tsuas yog los yeej sib cav. Yog li txhua yam koj hais yuav tsis tau npaum li cas tiag.
- Ntau cov kev quarrels pib vim hais tias tib neeg tsis tau txais yam lawv xav tau los ntawm tus khub (kev sib raug zoo). Qee lub sij hawm qhov teeb meem tshwm sim vim hais tias ntawm understatement - peb cia li tsis qhia rau tus khub ua li cas
los ntawm nws peb tos. Thiab qee zaum peb ua kom muaj siab dhau. Yog li ntawd, tshuaj xyuas koj lub siab xav, xav txog seb nws yog tiag tiag rau koj, los yog seb koj xav tau ib yam dab tsi vim hais tias lwm tus muaj nws. - Coj mus rau hauv tus account lub siab xav ntawm lwm. Nco ntsoov tias koj tus khub tseem tseem tos ib yam dab tsi los ntawm koj. Mutual kev nkag siab ntawm tib neeg nyob ntawm seb lawv paub ntau npaum li cas rau kev sib hwm.
Raws li koj tau to taub lawm, tus yuam sij rau kev sib nrig sib luag lus hauv kev muaj peev xwm ua rau koj hnov thiab xav mloog lwm tus. Ua ke, koj tuaj yeem nrhiav tau ib qho kev xaiv uas yuav nplua ob yam tib si.