Cov niam txiv feem coob paub txog qhov teeb meem no xws li cov me nyuam ntshai, thiab ntau tus neeg tab tom nrhiav lo lus teb rau lo lus nug txog kev yuav ua li cas nrog lawv? Yuav ua li cas coj tus cwj pwm zoo nrog tus me nyuam los pab tiag tiag, tsis haj yam nyuaj rau qhov teeb meem no?
Dab tsi ua rau me nyuam ntshai?
Kev daws teeb meem rau txhua qhov teeb meem yog tsis muaj kev nkag siab ntawm nws cov ua. Yog li ua ntej peb yuav paub tias dab tsi yog qhov ua rau kev ntshai thaum yau. Yog li ntawd, kev ntshai yuav ua rau tus xeeb menyuam, muaj xwm txheej los yog muaj kev tshoov siab. Kev txhawj xeeb hauv kev laus, raws li lub npe pom zoo, tuaj nyob hauv tus menyuam thaum yug thiab muaj peev xwm nrog tus neeg ntawd tag nrho nws lub neej. Ntawm no peb nco ntsoov hais tias kev ntshai nws tus kheej tsis yog ib qho kab mob, tsis yog kev mob ntsws, tab sis kev tiv thaiv tau muab rau peb los ntawm kev xwm txheej. Ib tug me nyuam yaus ntshai nyob ib leeg, tsis muaj leej niam, vim hais tias leej niam muab nws cov khoom noj thiab kev nplij siab thaum xa tej yam ntuj tso los, i.e. muab txhua yam tsim nyog rau lub neej. Teeb meem ua rau muaj kev ntshai yog kev ntshai tshwm sim los ntawm kev tsis pom kev zoo. Ib qho piv txwv yooj yim: tus me nyuam uas tau raug ib zaug dhau los ntawm ib tug dev yuav ntshai dev thiab hla dhau ntawm ib sab. Thaum kawg, kev tshoov siab tshwm sim - peb muab lawv rau peb cov me nyuam lawv tus kheej. Piv txwv, yog hais tias tus me nyuam tsis tshua muaj siab rau kev tu cev thiab ntxuav ntawm nws niam nws txiv, tus me nyuam paub txog kev ntshai ntawm kev kis kab mob thiab kev kis kab mob, feem ntau ntxuav nws tes, hloov ris tsho, thiab lwm yam. Tsis tas li ntawd, "tus laus" nrog tus menyuam tham txog kev tuag, kev mob nkeeg ua rau tus me nyuam muaj kev ntxhov siab tsis zoo.
Yuav ua li cas nrog me nyuam kev ntshai?
Raws li peb twb to taub lawm, ntshai nws tus kheej yog ib qho kev tswj hwm tus kheej kom tsim nyog rau txoj kev ciaj sia. Koj nug: ces tej zaum, thiab tsis tua nws? Nws tsis yog yuav tsum tau sib ntaus, tab sis tsuas yog yog tias koj tus me nyuam qhov kev ntshai tshwm nws tus kheej zoo rau qhov teeb meem no, i.e. yog qhov lus teb rau lub hom phiaj kev ua phem thiab tsis yog ib qho kev xav xav tau. Yog tias koj yog ib tug ntawm cov niam txiv zoo siab uas tsis tau raug kev tsim txom los ntawm lo lus nug "yuav ua li cas kov yeej cov me nyuam kev ntshai", ces koj tsuas qhia tau rau lub sijhawm kom tsis txhob muaj kev ntshai thaum yau. Namely: kom tsis txhob muaj kev ntxhov siab rau tus me nyuam, los tsim nws txoj kev sib txuas lus, kom nws muaj kev hlub, kev hlub thiab kev nkag siab.
Yog tias me nyuam qhov kev ntshai ua neeg nrog koj tus me nyuam, lawv ua rau cov kua muag tsis so, nervousness, ces koj yuav tsum tau ua. Thiab ces cov niam txiv muaj peev xwm ua tau ntau yam. Ua ntej tshaj plaws, koj mloog tus me nyuam, rau nws txoj kev paub, kev sib raug zoo siab nrog nws yuav pab tau rau ntawm no. Qhov peb txoj hauv kev los tiv thaiv kev ntshai ntawm childish yog kev sib txuas lus, kev tsim khoom thiab kev ua si.
Li no, peb txoj hauv kev los mus rhuav tshem kev ntshai ntawm menyuam yaus. Thawj qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws uas koj tuaj yeem ua yog nrog tus menyuam tham txog nws qhov kev ntshai. Zaum nrog tus me nyuam nyob rau hauv ib qho chaw nyob ntsiag to thiab nug nws txog dab tsi nws thab plaub, nws ntshai, vim li cas. Thaum twg los xij, tus me nyuam yuav pom qhov koj xav tau los qhia qhov teeb meem nrog nws, thiab, sib koom nws txoj kev paub, yuav muaj kev ntseeg siab dua. Tsis txhob thuam cov me nyuam kev ntshai - tus me nyuam tuaj yeem ua txhaum, koj yuav poob siab rau koj thiab yav tom ntej yuav tsis nrog koj cov teeb meem tshiab tshwm sim.
Kev tsim kho muaj peev xwm tseem yog ib tus neeg pabcuam zoo rau koj kev tawm tsam kev tiv thaiv kev ua rau me nyuam yaus. Tom qab tham nrog tus menyuam txog nws qhov kev ntshai, thov kom nws kos. Nyob hauv tus txheej txheem ntawm kev kos duab, tus me nyuam pib hnov nws lub hwj chim qhov khoom ntawm kev ntshai, thiab yog li ntawd, ntawm kev ntshai nws tus kheej. Tus sau zaj dab neeg no nco txog nws tus kheej thaum nws tseem yau: insanely ntshai ntawm tus npau taws, ntawm qhov kev xav ntawm nws niam nws daim ntawv rau ntawm daim ntawv - nws ua ib qho kev zoo nkauj, tsis yog txhua qhov txaus ntshai (nws yog qhov yuav tsum tau hais tias kev ntshai tom qab txoj kev cai zoo tam sim ntawd tau ploj mus).
Tsis tas li ntawd, koj tuaj yeem tshem tawm kev ntshai ntawm tus me nyuam nrog kev pab ntawm qhov kev ua si. Piv txwv, qhov chaw ua si hauv chaw ua si yuav pab kom cov me nyuam tau txais kev ntshai ntawm kev sib tham ntawm neeg txawv ("stain") - ntse ntse, lub teeb lub nraub qaum, lub ncuav tsis muaj qhov sib thooj).
Yog tias koj tsis tuaj yeem kov yeej kev ntshai ntawm koj tus kheej, koj tus kheej yuav tsum tau ua, tsis tas yuav qeeb, tig mus rau ib tus kws kho mob tshwj xeeb. Kev ua haujlwm ntawm ib tus kws paub txog kev puas siab ntsws nrog me nyuam yuav pab daws qhov teebmeem thaum pib ntawm nws txoj kev loj hlob, tiv thaiv kev hloov kev txhawj xeeb ntawm tus me nyuam hauv phobia laus.
Kev ntshai hmo ntuj ntawm cov me nyuam
Peb yuav nyob ntawm no phenomenon, xws li cov me nyuam txoj kev ntshai hmo ntuj - tej zaum muaj ib hom kev hnyav tshaj plaws ntawm childish kev ntshai. Lawv ua txhaum txoj kev pw tsaug zog thiab kev vam meej ntawm tag nrho tsev neeg, ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab ntawm cov niam txiv, uas tig rov los dua rau tus menyuam. Lub voj voog tsim yog tsim los, los ntawm qhov uas nws tsis yooj yim tawm. Thaum lub sijhawm hmo ntuj ntshai, tus menyuam (feem ntau ntawm 2-5 xyoos) hauv thawj peb teev ntawm ib hmos nws pw tsaug zog qw nrov nrov thiab quaj qw. Thaum sim coj nws hauv nws caj npab thiab nqig, nws tawm nws tus kheej tawm, arching nws tus kheej nrog tus koov.
Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws - Nco ntsoov tias kev hlub ntawm niam txiv muaj peev xwm kho tau cov kev ntshai thaum yau. Ua tus phooj ywg rau koj tus menyuam thiab nrog nws nyob, vim muaj phooj ywg - tsis muaj dab tsi ntshai!