Tus me nyuam ua ntej yuav mus pw tsaug zog - qhov tseeb no tuaj yeem tsis tuaj yeem thov cov niam txiv, tab sis qhov nyuaj ntawm kev mus pw - ib qho teeb meem uas txhua tus neeg ntsib ntsib. Vim li cas tus menyuam quaj qw los sis quaj qw ua ntej yuav tsaug zog? Nws zoo nkaus li qee tus niam txiv tias qhov no tsuas yog qhov tsim nyog rau cov me nyuam tsaug zog. ("Koj ua dab tsi, tab sis nws tseem quaj.") Qhov no puas yog, thiab yuav ua kom tus me nyuam ua ntej nws yuav mus pw?
Vim li cas tus me nyuam ua yeeb yam thaum mus pw?
Yog hais tias nws yog ib tug me nyuam me, nco ntsoov nws lub regime ntawm lub hnub, nws khoom noj khoom haus, noj qab haus huv. Phem thaum pw tsaug zog, tus me nyuam, nws tsaug zog ntev heev thaum nruab hnub. Ntxiv mus, nws yuav muaj lub plab, nws yuav kub los yog, ntawm qhov tawm tsam, txias heev.
Rau cov neeg laus hnub nyoog tshaj, qhov chaw hauv tsev, kev sib raug zoo ntawm cov niam txiv, tus cwj pwm ntawm niam txiv rau tus me nyuam ua si tseem ceeb. Xwb, thaum lub sij hawm quaj, tus me nyuam tuaj yeem npaj siab tawm ntawm nws tus kheej hauv qhov kev tshwm sim uas niam txiv:
- yuav tsum tau muaj ntau ntawm lawv tus me nyuam (yog li hnub ntawd ntawm tus me nyuam yog tsim ntawm kev ua tiav ntawm kev txiav txim ntawm niam, txiv, pog, yawg);
- nyob rau hauv tsis tooj, lawv tsis xav tau dab tsi los ntawm tus me nyuam. Nws yog ib qho tsim nyog paub tias "piam sij" feem ntau ua rau tsis txaus siab txog tus me nyuam cov kev xav tau (thiab nws cov calming), tab sis, ntawm qhov tsis sib xws, kev nyuab siab heev rau lawv lub paj hlwb. Tus me nyuam yeej xav tau ciam teb.
Yuav ua li cas calm tus me nyuam ua ntej yuav mus pw?
Ua ntej tshaj plaws, yog tias koj tham txog ib tug menyuam mos, koj yuav tsum tau tshem tawm qhov teebmeem. Kuaj qhov mob ntawm daim ntaub qhwv plab, ua ib ploog zaws, zoo rau lub qhov cua, ua kom sov chav. Tham nrog koj tus me nyuam nyob rau hauv ib lub suab, tsis txhob tau khaus ntawm nws lub siab. Tshawb xyuas lub sijhawm ntev npaum li cas tus menyuam pw thaum nruab hnub, thiab lub sijhawm ntawd ntev npaum li cas. Qhov nruab nrab ntawm
Rau cov me nyuam loj, tsoom fwv qhov teeb meem tseem ceeb, tiam sis, me ntsis hauv ib lub ntsiab lus sib txawv. Cov me nyuam loj hlob yuav tsum tau nkag siab tias tsis muaj teeb meem li cas lawv coj ua ntej mus pw, lawv tsis tas yuav ua si thiab dhia, thaum niam txiv hais tias lub sijhawm mus pw, lawv yuav tsum tau mloog. Rau tus me nyuam tsaug zog ib tug, cog lus rau nws tias yog nws tiv kev ua nrog nws txoj hauj lwm, ces tom qab pw tsaug zog yuav tau txais cov khoom ua si uas xav tau, ib phau, koj mus qhov chaw uas tus me nyuam tau ntev xav mus. Tab sis daim ntawv thov yuav tsum tau ua kom tiav, txwv tsis pub lwm zaus koj cov lus sib cav yuav tsis ua haujlwm. Tsis txhob qw lossis ua kom ntshai tus me nyuam txhua tus, vim hais tias muaj tus cwj pwm zoo ua ntej ua ntej yuav mus pw tsaug zog rau kev loj hlob ntawm tus me nyuam tus cwj pwm.